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Tis the season to be... single?

Updated: Nov 26, 2019

Another year has almost come to an end. We're in the midst of the holiday season. There's the regular hustle and bustle and here you are... single. For some of you, it's hard. It's a struggle. It's not easy. You find yourself frustrated because you're in this place again. Just like last year. The year before, there was a possible guy, but that didn't work. And before that you were holding on to someone just so you'd have someone to kiss under the mistletoe and attend Christmas parties with. Yet nothing has changed.


Is this you? Because times it's been me. I'll be honest. Even on the journey to becoming content and achieving contentment, the holidays can still make the best of females a little down. Even if only temporary. Family and friends are nice. Christmas parties are fun. God is the source of joy and you can be honest and open with Him. But it's still not easy. You're single and frustrated. Now what?


Here's what I say. You have options! You can sulk and complain, and have too many glasses of special eggnog. Or you can decide to go on a date with a man that may be just as lonely. Yes, they're out there! Sidebar: Last year I spent a lot of time interviewing men to see how they feel about dating, relationships, etc and it's been interesting, to say the least. This information was compiled into literature and data for you all, so visit the dating page here. But yes, there are some men that are equally as frustrated this time of the year. Maybe go have eggnog pancakes with someone. It may not go anywhere, but a good time, a few laughs, and a story to tell your girlfriends always makes for great fun.


Start a new hobby. Read a new book. Link up with friends. Binge watch a TV series. Redecorate your home and/or bedroom. Go see a new movie by yourself. Take a dance class. Try new recipes.


Serve at a shelter this season. I've found that giving back and serving is always a good way to meet new people and find joy during the holidays. My nonprofit does outreach twice during the holidays and it definitely is a cheerful moment. "True fulfillment comes from helping others." Anonymous


Now would be a good time to discover your purpose and chase your passion, if you aren't already. This is a big one! What hobbies do you enjoy? Maybe host a small get together at your house with Christmas appetizers, music, and games if you like entertaining. If you're creative and into arts, make ornaments, body scrubs, or hats to hand out and/or gift to others. There's something you not only enjoy doing but that you're good at. “Doing what you like is freedom, liking what you do is happiness.”Anonymous


Don't let anyone tell you that there are bigger issues to address just because you're sad during the holidays due to being single. It happens to the best of us and the strongest ones. The holidays have a way of bringing it out of people sometimes. A person may be content January - October when it comes to being single. But something about November and December brings out a different side. And often we set new goals and do things different in the month of January. And then Valentine's rolls around. For this reason, we're doing the 3rd Annual Women's Retreat in February 2020. We're leaving from Charleston, SC and there's room for you if interested!


The holidays can be rough. No matter where you are and how you feel. It affects many of us (not all). My mom passed away 4 years ago. And it's harder this time of year than the other months. So it's no secret that this season brings out various emotions in some people. Those that are grieving and going through another year without a loved one find themselves saddened right now as well.


If you're just still having a hard time no matter what, I'm here for you. Perhaps individual coaching or a course from the site is what you need. Either way, you don't have to do it alone. You may be single, but you're not alone. Tis the season to be jolly so cheer up and take the necessary steps!