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No longer "single & frustrated"

I recall being single and frustrated! Mind you, I wasn't sexually frustrated. But yes, I was single. At one point, I desperately wanted to be in a relationship and I was going about it all wrong. I figured sex with this guy (or even that one) wouldn't hurt. The exact opposite, actually: I thought it would HELP. Surely, if men saw that I was a good mom, a great cook, great in bed, AND a Christian, they would want to enter into a relationship with me. Within no time, they would even want to marry me. I had it all figured out. I was wrong. So wrong!


For starters, did you notice that I mentioned being great at everything else, but only said I was a "good" mom? I also mentioned how I was a Christian, yet I saw nothing wrong with entering into situations (and bed) with men that weren't my husband. Most of those men had no desire to even make me a GIRLFRIEND. Yet I was cheapening myself as I desperately waited on Mr. Right. I was frustrated. My kids would tell you that I was an awesome mother. Others would say I was a godly woman. They weren't aware of my struggles, though.


After a heartbreak in the summer of 2017, I dove even deeper into God. I realized that He was the only one that could love me the way I needed to be loved. I had to remind myself of my identity in Him. Genesis 1:27 is my go to scripture in this season because it confirms that I'm created in His image. And anything He creates is good (1 Timothy 4:4). I am GOOD. I am beyond good; I'm great. And I'm worth being courted. I'm worth being respected. I am worthy in general, and I'm more precious than rubies. I no longer have to roam with my pigs because my Father owns a palace!


Right now, I'm not being courted by anyone. I haven't been on a date in who knows how long. But guess what? I'm good! I'm no longer single and frustrated because I'm enjoying my time with God. I'm letting Him be my husband during this season. I'm focusing on Him and His love and dwelling in it. And the more time I spend with Him, the more He affirms my beauty. He affirms my worth. He affirms that I'm good and pleasing and that He won't allow me to be connected to just any ol' body. He is showing me why it hasn't worked with other men; they couldn't handle what I was carrying. The oil that flows from me doesn't mix with the vinegar of those men. I am a catch, created in the image of God.


If you are single and frustrated, I recommend that you spend time letting God love on you. Then you'll fall in love with Him. Lastly, you'll be head over heels in love with yourself. It's the best feeling ever when you see yourself through the lens of God. A woman on fire for God and aware of her self-worth is a force to be reckoned with. Adjust your crown, Sis. Walk with the King of Kings until He sends a godly man to complement you. Know that His timing is perfect.