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Boaz... really?

Yes, there's a handful of women that are still patiently awaiting the arrival of Boaz. The wonderful man that we're often told to wait on, because he'll be all that and more to us. He's rich, handsome, and worth waiting for. We're told to be like Ruth, gleaning the fields and hard at work, minding our business, and then Boaz will come sweep us off our feet.


If you've been following me for a while, then you know how I feel about this topic. After all, I wrote a best-seller about it last year (check it out here). We've cheapened the story of Ruth and Boaz to some romantic fairy-tale when it's so far-fetched. Those who truly read their Bible and meditate on the words will see romance as the last thing that comes from this book.


If you're determined, though, that this is the kind of romance and marriage you're waiting for, then let's examine a few things.


Ruth and Boaz didn't marry because of love. Ruth wasn't hard at work and then Boaz saw her and fell in love. Actually, Ruth was a widow that was poor. She was back in Judah with her mother-in-law Naomi after both of their husbands had died. Ruth wasn't even a believer. She converted when Naomi was telling her to return home. But Ruth refused. "Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people and your God will be my God" Ruth 1:16 NLT. So they made the journey and settled in Judah, where they had nothing. Ruth finds herself working in the field of Boaz, the wealthy man. He instructed the foreman to allow her to get grains, even telling harvesters to drop some on purpose so she would have extra, warning them to not give her a hard time.


He respected her and looked out for her, especially seeing as how her reputation preceded her and he knew all about her. When Naomi told Ruth to freshen up and go to the threshing floor one night, Ruth obliged. While Boaz was a family redeemer, though, there was another that was more closely related. Upon discussing the matter with the other relative, they didn't step up to the plate, so Boaz did. Boom. They got married.


What I see is a beautiful depiction of Christ. I see how God redeems us when we're down to nothing. I see a glimpse of how one may endure hard times and remain faithful to God, only for Him to come through and provide at the right time. I see a display of a great friendship and loyalty between Naomi and Ruth. I also see Ruth, a woman hard at work while dealing with grief and loss, yet she was dedicated and hardworking. And in the midst, God showed up in that field.


If you desire a man that resembles Boaz, my question is are you a woman that resembles Ruth? Do you know what it means to struggle and not question God? Are you a woman that can work hard without complaining, minding your own business and not even thinking about a husband? Because that's what I see in Ruth. Can you trust God even when things aren't going well with no promise of a reward? I see that in Ruth, also. Examine the posture and position of Ruth. I see a Proverbs 31 virtuous woman in her. Is that your story as well?


Remember that there are many other great men in the Bible. David, Abraham, Moses, Paul, Joshua, etc. Be not deceived when you're told to wait on Boaz. A major key left out is that he died shortly after they consummated their marriage. I see no fairy-tale here. I do, however, see the story of the greatest romance. And it's that Christ died for us while we were still sinners. I see that He redeemed us in death so that we can have life.


But if you're insistent that Boaz, or a man with his qualities, is what you desire, then I would recommend a few things based on the history of he and Ruth.



  • Trust God, regardless of the circumstances (even while still single).

  • Be a dedicated, loyal friend to someone in need.

  • Work hard in the field that you're currently planted, no matter how difficult.

  • Be respectful.

  • Cherish your purity and make men respect it.